It's been 2 months now since I changed my status from Double to Single... hehehe! Honestly, I don't regret making that decision. It was April last year when our marriage was put into a test... oh well, there were a lot of tests prior to that. But April was the turning point... Let me share you the story.
April 18, he (when I say "he" on this post, it means my "ex-hubby", ok?") he got home with a letter saying that he's terminated. In fairness, it was an illegal termination. He was working then with one of the leading Ads paper in the country. Leading Ads paper as they may say... but the pay can't support a family. Really! I should know. I was working with the same company in 2002 (few months after I graduated, Nov 2001.
In short, I met my ex-hubby in this company. We we're together as bf-gf, June 2002 and got married Apr 2003 under Civil Rights(that was fast, huh! - yeah, I was pregnant then).
After our wedding rights, he moved to our house (we're living with my parents) with only a few things with him. During my pregnancy, I would find myself crying at night... telling myself and the little baby in my womb that I'm not happy and I wish that I married my ex-boyfriend of 4 yrs.
After 9 months, October 2003, I gave birth to my son which we named Carl Ynalle. I gave birth to a semi-private hospital in Caloocan City. Only him and my parents visited me during my 2 day stay in the hospital. When I got home, several friends and relatives visited me and my baby Carl. But not a single relative nor his parents or siblings visited us. :(
December 7 of the same year was Carl's Christening Day. Friends and relatives graced that special day. One of his siblings and some friends showed up. Poor Carl - it seems that nobody from his dad's side was excited to see him.
I came back to work Dec 12 - that's were I started to realize that our combined salary will not be enough to support a family. I think it's mother's instinct - I really want to do something to change our lives- I tried applying as a Cashier (SM), thinking it would that I would take home more, I attended the training for a few days (Dec 8-11)...I gave up, realizing that the job I got would only last for less than 6 months. So I ended up going back to the Ads Paper Company as an Accounting Assistant. The following months were so difficult for everyone.
It was June 2004 when I finally got the guts I need to resign and try something that would really change our lives.
I resigned even though I dont have a job yet, I just felt that if I will not move out from that company, nothing will happen to us... how will I give what Carl needs? That was the question that popped in my head when I was making that difficult decision. So, I left that company leaving him behind (he was on his 7th year of service then). I also asked him to start applying somewhere that will give him a better salary, but he opted to stay. Sigh!
September 2004 when I started working for ClientLogic (now Sitel), even though I was so clueless about what a call center is, I applied. Lucky enough, I got hired. After 1 month of training with a schedule of 9pm-6am Sat-Sun off, we finally hit production. With the awful schedule of 3am-12nn, with a consolation of weekends off.
I enjoyed working with Arnel's Gangsta (team name), everyone was so supportive especially to a newbie like me. Christmas came - we have a shift scheduled that day, but since it's gonna Carl's first Christmas (he was already 1 year old) I convinced one of my team mates, Rada to swap schedule with me. So, I was able to spend Christmas and visited all Carl's Godparents. Here came New Year of 2005, I had no choice but to come in to work, it was a critical working day for all call centers. I left home at around 9pm for that 3am shift. I swear, it was one of the saddest days in my life - to spend the New Year's Eve in the office.
January 2005 - we heard (some of my team mates) that MCI pulled out from Ambergris. So, we immediately plan our next move - coz we might be the next, and we're thinking of what will happen to us, especially me who was only 4 months with the company.
One of our trainers moved to IBM Daksh and he was the one who referred the 3 of us as part of Wave 1 of Sprint (a telecoms account). The selection process was just one day but the exam and interview was tough. Lucky enough - the 3 of us were hired. Yehey!
After 2 weeks of Voice and Accent Training,3 weeks of Product Training and 1 week of Nesting, we finally hit production April 2005. We had a nice schedule. 7pm-4am, weekends off.
After a few weeks in Production, an IJP was posted. The Quality Department needs 2 Quality Specialist. Caca and I were hired as Quality Specialist, June 2005.
I was transferred to another account (Shutterfly) with Amor. I stayed there for almost 5 months.
February 2007 - I got an American Visa (B1) because I'm one of those who were included to the initial list to pioneer the next account. While waiting for that account, I was moved to School of Excellence based in Edsa Square. I enjoyed my stay there for a few weeks, coz we dont have a fixed schedule, I can come in to work anytime and there's a lot of "petiks time".
May 2007 - I realized that I'm starting to get bored. I'm not used to doing nothing. So, I contacted Tita Shine (she's with Accenture since Feb 2007) she said that they need a QA and asked me if I want to apply. Why not? hehe! So, I applied and got hired. I started May 17, 2007.
Fast forward - I'm currently with Accenture as one of the Quality Analyst for more 1 year and 8 months now.
Going back to April 18, 2008 - he got home with a letter saying that he's terminated. In fairness, it was an illegal termination. I believe him and in his work ethics that I supported him all the way. He filled a case on NLRC against the company. He got a new job but he quit after a few weeks saying that he doesnt like the new management. Ok fine. Hearing took place almost every week. So, during that time, I didnt oblige him to find a new job.
Months passed by and he's still jobless... and he's doing nothing at home except to bring and pick up Carl from school. Nothing else. He was a bum.
June - I started feeling cold. I felt like I'm all alone. Like 1 versus 100. Fyi, I'm the only one working for everyone (Mom, Dad, younger sister, Carl and him). I used to tell him, if you cant find a new job yet, do something to help me. Like a sideline, it might be small but it would help me with the expenses.
July - Nothing happened... so I stopped talking.
August - I felt that I deserve to reward myself for doing everything for them so, when Tita Shine asked me to join her to HongKong, without second thoughts, we booked our flight(Oct 15 - 20).
September - I told him about the trip I think second week of September. The first thing he said was "ang dami mong pera no?!" (you have a lot of money!) with a sarcastic tone. I could not say anything at that point, I felt like I was talking to someone who doesnt know me and what I've been through. And all he can say was that stupid thing. He wasn't even giving me a single penny since April and he dared to talk to me that way?! Wtf!
My birthday - I joined Team Ohana on their overnight Team Building in Antipolo and celebrated my birthday with new set of friends. It was a great experience for me. I don't care what people would think knowing that I have a family and yet opted to celebrate my birthday with my new friends. I thought I would have my "moments" there. But Yna, had her moments.Hehehehe! We drank from afternoon till the wee hours. Everytime we feel like we're getting drunk, we will jump in the pool and will get back to our senses again... and drink again. Hahahah!
Mitch and Mark left and promised to be back just in time for midnight. They came just in time with a super delicious chocolate cake. Since there's no candle available, Johnel lit a lighter and had me blew it in replacement of the candle blowing ceremony. Hahahaha!
October - we're no longer talking and we're not even seeing each other. I left for Hong Kong October 15-20. He was not even aware that I already left. He asked my mom 3 days after and that's the time he knew I left.
When I got back, I talked to my parents, I told them that I want him to be out of my life. My parents are aware of what's happening. Btw, he already got a new job during this time. But still out of budget that he bugs me everyday to give him allowance. It even came to a point that he said that I am lucky coz I have rich friends and he doesnt. Duh!
November - he left Nov 9 packing all his things. I know he was leaving but I dont care. He left while I was sleeping coz I have a shift that night. He texted me that night saying that I should not tell Carl bad things about him. Wtf?!
December - Dec 1 was the first time I saw him after he left. There was a commotion between him and my parents and him and me. I was so angry that time. He said a lot of things that were not true and so immature. Then I realized... it was really the end for us. The only thing that's linking us is Carl... nothing else.
Now, I'm enjoying my single life.
*thanks to strangeblogia for the pix
